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A few things I learned

Hello everyone! So far 2016 has been just as exciting as 2015.  Along the way I’ve had ups, downs, ins, outs, highs, lows, and everything else, and it’s only four months into the new year. I never could have imagined half of the things that have happened to me in the last few years. Hell, some of them I still can’t believe. Being an adult can be fun, if you remember not to grow up and take yourself too seriously. Here are a few things I’ve learned:

Forgiveness, especially of myself. It’s one thing to forgive someone for hurting you in some way but a whole other thing to forgive yourself for beating the shit out of yourself on a regular basis. Remembering to do my best, live in the present moment and take care of myself before anything else has been an ongoing theme. Have I done my best so far? Yes I have. Would some people disagree with me? Yes they would. Too bad. I know I did my best and that I’ve created the life I’m leading right now. The coolest thing of all is that when I forgave myself for all the mean things I’ve done to myself over the years and for not seeing how spectacular I am, all kinds of opportunities showed up. I went back to school in an untraditional way to better understand myself so that I may empower others to empower themselves, I gave my first speech at a breast cancer awareness fundraiser in May 2015, and I fell in love with myself for the very first time-ever! I would have preferred a less tumultuous path, but I’ve learned a lot about myself along the way. I now understand how I get to co-create the life I live. I get to continue creating the life I want to lead next year, including having my own coaching business and having balance between entrepreneur and calm, loving mom.

Acceptance, especially of myself. Ghetto booty, fake boobs (mine tried to kill me so I replaced them;) ) and everything else, thank you very much! Accepting others as they are, accepting situations and circumstances as they are, and accepting what is. Learning to tell the difference between fact and fiction is the key to the door of acceptance. The facts are simply the unbiased observations of the events in our lives and the fiction is all the dramatic meaning we, as humans, put on everything. If you’re not happy, either accept what is or do something about it. If you’re emotionally attached to someone or something, you’re not accepting. If you want things to be different than they are, you’re not accepting. If you feel like you’re struggling, you’re not accepting. Realizing and remembering that the only thing in this entire universe that you can control is you and your acceptance of things is another step to opening up to possibility. 

I also learned that in order to accept things as they are I had to learn how to surrender. Surrendering everything I’ve ever been taught to open myself up to learning new more empowering ways of being has been a huge gift for me. When you learn to surrender to the flow of life and trust the Universe, this facilitates acceptance. And if you are in acceptance of the facts of your life exactly as they are, this facilitates surrender. Acceptance and surrender are two sides of the same coin.

Along with forgiveness, acceptance, and surrender comes freedom. Freedom to be. Freedom to be yourself and freedom to allow others to be who they are. For me, freedom to be the silly, calm, loving, playful, inspirational, beautiful Bulldog that has been fighting to get out has been essential for me to start creating my life. Peace of mind can be found among these ideas. It’s all about changing one’s attitude and perspective. While here on earth in our humanly vessel we have certain things we have to face: health, illness, hormones, all the pathophysiology that comes with being human. Something I try to remember on a regular basis is that we are all energy and we are all connected. Believe me, I don’t want to be connected to those we label as stupid anymore than you do but are they truly stupid or just unenlightened? Are they saying the same thing about you? Probably. Perception is everything. But forgiving, accepting, loving yourself and staying true to who you are allows you to not worry so much about what another’s perception is. We’re all mirrors for each other anyway so maybe what we’re seeing in them is just a reflection of us. I didn’t go all crazy on you guys with this universe and energy and we’re all connected stuff. It’s just what I’ve learned for myself to get me closer to happiness. And realizing that happiness isn’t a destination, its a way of being.

So much love from me to you! xo